Young and Proud

Man walks into his doctor's office and puts his right arm up as far as he can behiond his back until his fingers almost touch his shoulder and says, "Doc, it hurts when I do this."
The doctor looks at him and replies, "Then don't do that."
Seems so simple, doesn't it? Something hurt? Stop doing it. Something unpleasant? Avoid it (if possible). IF something is BAD for you, don't just sit and take it... DO something about it. And, yes, walking away IS doing something.
Sometimes... that's the BEST thing.
I know I've been tlaking a lot about the women I know lately but let's change it up a bit and deal with a feller.
Friend of mine was erally into this chick when he was younger. I think he was 18 or 19 when they first started dating. They seemed really good together and got along and had fun and all that so there wasn't anything wrong with the relationship.
But they were young. Young people don't know what the hell they're doing so they broke up and rightfully so. Both went on to make stupid choices involving other people (even some not-so-stupid ones) and eventually ran into each otehr again.
By then they were a few years older and "wiser" (relatively speaking) and tried to be friends. Of course, once they agreed to be friends they slept together. This meant they had to try again.
See? Wiser but still young and stupid. Things would go well and one week hanging out with them would be a blast while the next week could be nothing but bitching and moaning and awkward silences that would make me and other friends avoid them.
No violence.
No hatred.
No real anger.
It wasn't that they had a TERRIBLE relationship. They just had a difficult one. They would both have to work at it and could never synch up their efforts.
She would date other people during their breaks while he, loser that he was in the relationship, would basically sit and wait for her to come back.
Which she always did. She'd go off, get her heart broke or get disappointed that whatever new guy she met wasn't all that great and go back to him. The guys didn't have the sense of humor or weren't as cute or liked sports too much or whatever she could come up with.
So my friend wasn't good enough for her to commit to but these other guys weren't good enough to keep her away from him either. And since he was quite happy with HER and had learned that she WOULD come back if he just waited, he learned to wait. He showed no interest in other women. Shit, it was depressing to watch him out in bars and clubs and whatnot and women would hit on him or simply talk to him and he would act like they were just new friends.
No sealing of ANY deal, you get me?
Made everyone want to smack him upside the head.
The chick would sleep with his friend and he'd take her back.
She'd go off on some sexually perverted trip to miami and he'd take her back. (I think I'll tell THIS tale in a second.)
She'd date scum and losers and pieces of crap (BOTH of their words) and he'd take her back.
She obviously would never commit to him anywhere near as much as he committed to her but still he stayed.
Ever faithful.
Ever hopeful.
Ever retarded.
At first glance, you'd see it as undying love and devotion.
I saw fear.
He didn't know what else to do. No real confidence so he stayed with the one woman he COULD talk to and have any chance, in his mind, of wooing. That is, until she made the decision to get away. She severed all contact with the guy, met someone she COULD commit to and apparently got married. After sleeping with another one of his friends, of course.
So the same woman who took a trip to Miami in order to try and bed the cute GAY guy from her CHURCH and ended up convincing him into a threesome with a GAY guy they met in Miami only to become the third wheel since the two GAY guys were more interested in EACH OTHER than her so she came back to Jax and called him up to "confess"... she's now in her first real adult relationship and, I've heard, quite happy. None of her friends really like the guy but she does and that's enough.
So the only reason he got out of the bad relationship was because she saw it as even WORSE. She was motivated to get away and this benefitted him. Perhaps, that's what we all need... to learn how to piss off the person who's bad for US enough that THEY leave!!
I don't think that works, though.
But what do I know? I dated that chick for 10 years.